Yes, you finally made it to the half day point in your day and you are now looking forward to those precious moments of silence or as close to it as you can get with kids. You know what I am talking about. That lovely one to two hours of alone time that you get when your kids are in their rooms occupying themselves. That break where all you can think of is sitting on your sofa with an awesome book and a cup of tea or cold drink. You can even sleep- I know I tend to take a quick nap at this point. Yup, QUIET TIME is here.
However,if you are wondering if this is a good fit for your family then I will help you today by giving you three reasons why quiet time may not be for you and your family.
Reason #1 Why You Don’t Need Quiet Time: Your Kids Are Too Young
Because your kids are too young and they still have nap times. Let me just say, those of us who are out of that stage hate you right now. Enjoy it while it lasts and please use this time to take yourself. Because when they wake up and you are tired- you will not be able to handle all the curveballs of parenting a young one.
Reason #2 Why You Don’t Need Quiet Time: You Don’t Want Time Alone
For the 0.5% of you crazy people who don’t want time alone then quiet time isn’t for you. For the rest of us mere mortals- we need it. Not just for the kids but for our sanity. But the temptation you are going to have is to spend these precious moment working.
There are tasks to be done- that wall needs a touch of paint, the dishwasher needs to be emptied and the lawn needs to be cut again! I can worry about showering later tonight after my kids are in bed and after I finished that to do list that keeps mocking me.
If I hit the nail on the head then stop, breathe and read 5 Signs That You Need A Break. If it speaks to you, then forget that mean to do list that laughs at you and just relax and do one thing for you. Just one.
Reason #3 Why You Don’t Need Quiet Time: Your Child Says that They Don’t Want To
Yup, those sweet darlings look you in the eye and say, “Nope, not going to happen. I will not go in my room. Why on earth would I want to miss out on everything around me?” True story, I think Jael believes that she will indeed miss out on something the minute her room door closes. But wait a second, I’m the parent? She doesn’t decide, I do. Thats when I send her to her room so that I can have my quiet time. She may not need it, but I do.
If they do ask why and they probably will simply use one of the following reasons:
- Because I said so
- Because I am the parent and you are the kid
If that doesn’t work, a well-placed threat will do. I don’t mean the simple threats that your kids know that you will never carry out. I mean the threats that will remind your kids that you truly are the parent and you mean business.
For example, I will threaten to take away her favourite toy for the rest of the day or let her know that she will lose her turn to pick a movie the following day. Kids are stubborn, don’t let them boss you around- you need that quiet time too.
Does your family need quiet time? If so, let me know in the comments. A simple “Oh yeah Alecia” will suffice.