Can you believe it? We are almost finished our series, ‘Don’t Homeschool, You Will Ruin Your Kids!‘ So far we have looked at the issues of socialization, not having any teacher training and today we will look at the theory that your kids will miss out. Let’s walk.
Homeschooling, like anything in life, has its advantages and drawbacks. No solution is ever 100% fool proof and homeschooling is one such case. FMO (Fear of Missing Out) is something that every parent and student (once they are old enough) needs to address. Truth is, every homeschool family will miss out on something. Below are some common but major things we will miss out on:
- Spending all day with friends
- Sports Teams
Let’s look at a few of these:
Miss Out On Prom
This is one of the social highlights of being in school and is seen as a rite of passage into adulthood. To most, it signifies that they have survived most, if not all, of high school. It is even better if they are elected to the prom court.
Why is it ok to miss out on prom?
As parents, we need to ask ourselves the following, especially if prom is a big deal:
- Is prom enough to outweigh the positives of homeschooling?
- Is 1 night of prom worth the whole year of homeschooling?
There are homeschool proms that are held in most areas. If you are lucky to be in one of these areas then CONGRATS! You can stop reading this section. If not, don’t worry there is another alternative. You could host your own prom with your kids and a few of their friends (homeschooled and non- homeschooled). For those with friends in traditional school, “Who says you only have to have 1 prom?”
(These alternatives also apply for school dances)
Miss Out On Sports
This issue also applies to high school homeschoolers. If you are in an area where the public school team is very small or non-existent then the fear of missing out will not be as strong. However, if you do live in an area with top high school sports team, you have some tough decisions to make. Questions will arise, such as:
- “Johnny is such a fast runner! He could easily win a full scholarship to any university he wants to IF HE WAS ON THE HIGH SCHOOL TEAM”
- “These homeschool sports days don’t provide enough challenge for my kids”
If you are in an area with sports clubs, then CONGRATS! Go and sign up your kids. If not, then this is where you have to be BRUTALLY HONEST with yourself. You have to ask yourself if it is indeed ok to miss out on the opportunity to play sports on that level. You have to say, “NO, my child will not be on a team” and “YES, that is ok,” or “we can live with it”. If you can’t say that then maybe you need to consider not homeschooling during high school.
Another alternative is to see if your kids can join the local school’s team. (It doesn’t hurt to ask, right?)
Most of these missing-out issues will not matter until your kids are in high school. If this is the stage that you are at then seek alternatives. Just remember that if there are no alternatives, you will have to be brutally honest with yourself and realize it really is a no-win situation and choose what you think is most important. In most cases, we lose either way, but choose what you think is the best choice even if it’s not the easiest choice.
Interested in finding more about homeschooling and some objections that people have to it, check out these books (click on cover):
Thanks again for walking with me through the series ‘Don’t Homeschool! You Will Ruin Your Kids’